You may want know how to win your guy back once the pizazz is gone.  Using 4 simple steps, you can get your relationship back on track as you were before – even if your boyfriend is dating someone else.

First of all, turn yourself into more than just a friend of his.  If you want him back, make yourself known, be around when he needs someone to talk to.  Don’t be judgmental, do be open-minded – that’s the key.  Most men like to know that they can open up with their thoughts or problems without being judged or ridiculed.  Gaining true intimacy is paramount to bringing back your guy.

Being open-minded and understanding is the second step, but don’t put yourself in the position of being a pushover, don’t let him use you for a doormat.  You definitely don’t want to be seen as a person to be taken advantage of. That’s what will happen if you seem overly eager.  Keep on an even keel. Let him know your opinions and feelings in matters of importance.  It’s a thin line between being judgmental and simply letting him know that you have thoughts and feelings as well.  Don’t try to bend his thoughts and opinions to suit you, that’s being judgmental.  Know the difference between sharing your thoughts and being judgmental.

Remind him of the good times – that’s your third important move.  Winning a guy back is easier if you remind him from time to time about happy past times.  Keeping those pleasant memories in mind will help him see why he liked you so much in the first place.  One thing you absolutely do not want to do is bring up unpleasant past times, that will only throw off your plans to get him back.

Your fourth step should involve telling him why you think he’s a great guy.  Don’t be like a silly school girl, make sure he’s on the relationship track, then you can start telling him what a wonderful guy he is.  The first three steps should have brought the two of you closer, then you can successfully implement the fourth step.  When he starts checking you out when you’re not looking, or if he starts flirting again – you’re there!  Remember, he might need a little help in the beginning because he may very well feel embarrassed about ever dumping you.  Help him out, help him save face. That’s an important way to win a guy back.  When the time is right, let him know that you think that you two made a good couple and that it would be worth it for both of you to get back together.

Employ these steps to get your guy back. Be steady in your resolve to get him back and take things slowly.  Even if things don’t seem to be rolling along as you would wish, chances are you’re planting plenty of the right thoughts in his head, and he’ll soon see that he wants you back himself.