You’ll argue with your boyfriend sooner or later, I’m sorry to tell you.  Any healthy relationship will have a handful of misunderstandings here and there, but when you are fighting, there are a few things you really should never say to a man.

Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #1 – Telling Him You’re Pregnant

Sometimes women will tell their guy that they’re pregnant to try and get him to commit to her.  This is a really bad idea.  Maybe having a little rug rat is enough to make a woman’s heart gush with delight, but if you and your boyfriend aren’t exactly on the best terms, this isn’t going to help with things.

For starters, you boyfriend is going to feel like you’re trapping him in a scenario he doesn’t want to be in.  Honestly, if he is feeling miserable with you, he isn’t going to feel good about the idea of being trapped with someone that makes him feel miserable.

On the flip side, if it’s true that you’re pregnant, your boyfriend will be scared—really scared.  He may even try to get you to have an abortion.  I know that all the men you see on TV sitcoms aren’t exactly the brightest lightbulbs in the box, but the truth is that most men are not stupid.  They know that a child isn’t going to clear up the problems that are straining your relationship.

Making up a story like this isn’t going to do you any good either.  Is it really going to help you if he thinks you’re a manipulative liar in addition to all the other arguments you’ve been having?

Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #2 – Saying You Cheated

Sometime things can get out of hand and you just want to make him feel some pain.  Maybe you want to let him know that you hooked up with one of your coworkers that time you were working late in the office.  I’d be lying if I said I never have done something similar.  But how is this going to achieve anything?  If you tell this to a man, he’ll feel really dumb and stupid for ever trusting a woman like you that sleeps around.

All this will do is brand you as a cheater.  Now, I’m going out on a limb here and I’m assuming that this isn’t exactly the kind of reputation you’re wanting for yourself.

Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #3 – Telling Him He’s Too Small

Trust me, don’t go there.  Of course you will probably succeed in making him feel inferior.  But you’re not going to be doing any favors for yourself either.

Stunts like this will only cast you in a bad light because you’ll seem very shallow like you’re more worried about size than skill, if you follow me.  This will only make you come across as the female equivalent to one of those guys that slobbers over every pair of long legs that walks by.  This isn’t how a classy woman acts.

These three mistakes are things that women seem to do frequently despite the fact that they simply end up backfiring on them.  Trust me, I know how challenging it can be in the heat of the moment to stay cool, but you need to make sure that you act like a classy and stylish woman.  It may be tempting to try to humiliate your boyfriend, but it’s essential not to knock yourself down at the same time.

Plus, the more stupid things you say, the more damage you’re going to have to deal with if you want to save your relationship.  I know it’s difficult to do so in the heat of the moment, but you’ll want to keep a long-term view.  Ask yourself “is this something I’m going to regret saying later?” before you let it out.